One of my best friends just lost her brother in a car crash. She is still obviously upset and rightly so. I want to help and make her not feel so sad, but I don’t know what to do. What’s your advice?
-Wants to Help a Friend”
Dear Wants to Help a Friend,
The best advice I can give you is simple and obvious-—be there for her. Death is often something extremely difficult to deal with and accept. Make sure she knows you are there for her, any time, all the time. Encourage her to write her feelings in a letter to her brother. It’ll give her the opportunity to say everything she didn’t get the chance to say. I know when I lost someone dear to me, writing a letter to him really helped me cope. Having friends around and knowing I had people to help me through was the most I could ask for. Take her on a day trip to do something she’s always wanted to, or something the two of you enjoy doing together. There’s really no permanent solution to losing someone, but with time and having you around, your friend will begin to feel a little better.
At times my girlfriend is clingy and at other times
she acts like I don’t exist. What should I do?
Dear Confused Boyfriend,
Have you sat down and told your girlfriend how you feel? Because if not, that’s the first thing you need to do. Any relationship problem should start with a conversation. If she’s dating you, then I imagine she cares about you. Therefore, she would want to hear the truth of how you are feeling. You can’t fix a problem if you don’t know that it exists.
Once school is out in May, I will officially have nothing to do for an entire month. I do not start work until the end of June and my two summer online classes also do not start until around that same time. Between the last day of school and that first day of work in late June, I will be bored out of my mind. Some look at this free time as a good thing, but I’m the kind of person who would rather be busy. A few days of relaxation will be nice, but I can only do that for so long. What kind of ideas or tips do you have for me?
-Bored of Being Bored”
Dear Bored of Being Bored,
Find a hobby. I understand being bored can be a drag sometimes, but take this time to find something you enjoy doing. It can be anything from painting to starting an exercise program. And if you’re feeling really ambitious, try job shadowing or volunteering somewhere. Having a month off will give you the time to catch up with people you haven’t had a chance to talk to, or enjoy all the extra sleep you can get!
I can’t keep women away from me. It was cool at first, but now I am getting a bad rep. What should I do?
Dear Ladies Man,
What’s wrong with having some ladies? If you really don’t like them that much, find a stick and beat them off with it. But really, about your reputation, are you doing something to help damage your rep? If not, you have nothing to worry about. Just let people think what they’re going to think. Your character is more important than your reputation, anyways. Now, if you’re doing something that deserves the bad rep, then you should probably work on your behavior.