Modern Love

Time for a game change

I’m sure a lot of you are approaching the New Year as a new chance at finding love. Whether you’re looking for something serious, casual, or maybe just a hook up buddy, there are certain ways to find what you’re looking for.

Have you ever heard the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results? Well, what better time than now to develop some new tactics to up your game?

You might want to consider where you’re searching. Where do you spend most of your time?

After a long day or work or school, where do you like to hang out at your leisure? Hate to break it to you, but you’re probably not going to find the love of your life at the bar. If you do, well, you might have some issues later in the relationship.

Keep in mind what you’re looking for in someone and where that kind of person might be. Try some new things, hit up some new places because you never know who you might bump into!

The idea here is to look in places you haven’t looked before. Change your perspective and strategy.
Don’t be so quick to throw people in the friend zone. Just because you always imagined yourself with a tall, blonde babe doesn’t mean your short, brunette friend isn’t the one for you. So what if you think a super buff, Italian guy is “your type”? Don’t automatically disqualify your thing, geeky best friend. He is just as capable of being your knight in shining armor than the meathead you’re stalking on Facebook. Stop yourself from being at all judgmental or shallow. Get to know people.

The most important thing about “looking for love” is not to look too hard. When you’re trying out new places or hobbies, don’t do it solely because you’re hoping to bump into your soulmate.

Do it for fun. Do it for the experiences. The idea is to let it find you by placing yourself in different situations. I can tell you from experience that someone special always walks into your life when you least expect it.