Kids are wonderful, right? They’re adorable, innocent and fun-loving. Who doesn’t love having a child all their own? That said, I plead with you: Do not have kids.
For now, at least.
I have four younger siblings ranging from ages 8 to 18. They are adorable, I love them unconditionally and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I myself was born to 18-year-old parents. That said, I often look back and wonder, incredulously, what in the world my parents were thinking.
Please don’t have kids—at least for a while. Few love kids as much as I do, but a kid is such a huge commitment. People are so money and bargain conscious these days and there is nothing more expensive than a child.
As a one-time kid, current college student, birthday present-buying older brother and purchaser of all my own groceries, I’m painfully aware of how much even the basic necessities cost, and I’m able to put zero when asked how many dependents I have. I see young parents with kids every day, having to rely on government aid just to feed them.
Note that I am not judging that at all; I’m glad there is a way to provide aid for their children, as there should be. It’s not the kids’ fault.
As a grown-up child myself, the youth lost to all that responsibility pains me. No one should have to handle a child at such a young age. All that time lost, time that could be spent either having fun, attending school or advancing one’s career—you know, creating a better life for the kids one may have later in life.
Take pains to prevent having kids. People generally have a window of multiple decades to have kids (a tip of the hat to science here). The ratio of real life to fun without kids as compared to with kids is steep. People are not going out and partying with an infant at home. Concerts and roadtrips aren’t happening. Oh, and that degree you were going to finish will be a tad more difficult now.
There’s the fact that the world is over-populated. If someone really, truly wants a child, I would encourage them to at least consider adoption.
Enjoy life. Achieve your goals before you risk having a kid. What I’m getting at is “take appropriate measures” to ensure kids don’t happen.
I’ll appreciate other people’s kids, when they’re in good moods and being adorable—and not have to deal with the feeding, the upbringing, the life-consuming side of them.